Sexual Health For Trans Women Like Me
Q: So I had what people often refer to as “Bottom Surgery” back in June 2018. I’m on this Facebook group where a lot of post-op trans women talk and share their experiences regarding surgery recovery, exploring our neo vaginas and sex. We also totally talk about our mental health, what we should prepare for before and after surgery, just a really nice place to bond and share and laugh and cry together. I’m mentioning all this because I see how cool this sexual health component is and I think, well, considering how many videos are out there of us trans women, it would be really cool for our health and
A: I could not agree with you more. We are an inclusive site, although we may have fewer articles about trans issues, simply because experts in this area are harder to find. Joining online communities is a great idea. The link below is an interview I did with a transwoman, Stef Sanjati, who has documented her journey on YouTube:
Transgender in College
Q: My mom and dad hate the idea that I am transgender, but it’s something I love. So instead I’ve been keeping quiet about it. What do I do when I get to college. I won’t have them around to tell me what to do, but this is a new group of people. I told the college I’m transgender, but my mom doesn’t know. Do I express it, as I want too, in college, or keep quiet about it again?
A: It is quite common for parents to be distressed upon hearing that their child is transgendered. Not only do they have to grieve in a way, but they also worry about how you will get on in the world and may worry about your safety. The decision to live your life as you wish is your choice, ultimately, and one that you should feel empowered in making. Sometimes hiding our true nature can cause us much psychological distress. I would also recommend you speak to a psychologist/counselor at college to help you with this transition/adaptation. It may also be a good idea to give your parents some information about transgenderism. And do give them time to adapt.
Transgender Wellness
Q: I have been transitioning medically and socially for two/three years now, but I’ve come into a slight problem. It’s hard to take care of my sexual needs on my own. Since starting estrogen my erogenous zones have flipped completely and stroking myself off doesn’t bring any pleasure. Please help, I’m going crazy.
A: Try not to focus on orgasm right away. You’re learning how to please a new body, and this requires an open mind and patience. Try different ways of masturbating, different pressures, speeds, and touch. Experiment with different erogenous zones by touching yourself in different areas of the body. It is normal to find that you will need a different kind of touch, and also that different parts of your body will give you pleasure. Unfortunately, though, being on female hormones and blocking the testosterone will affect how your penis now works.