Q: What is your opinion about men who cry? I am a man in my 30s, and whenever any girl I was involved with saw me cry they made me feel like less than a man. Are they wrong and it is OK for a man to cry, or am I wrong and I am in fact less of a man?
A: First it depends on why you are crying? Are these women seeing you cry at a funeral, which would be understandable, or are you crying because the waitress brought you the wrong dish? Context has a lot to do with it. Regardless if you legitimately cry, or if you are hyper sensitive, the issue is for you to find a partner that is compatible. It should be something you discuss with your partner and let them know early on that you do cry, and you do not want her to freak out. That is how you can start to see if she can accept it. If that is who you are you need to be with someone who can accept you just the way you are. With that said, if you are always crying, there may be a bigger issue here. Is the crying serving a purpose? Is it to bring someone closer to you? It is possible I need the comfort from someone else? If you think that it might be something more serious, then you might want to speak to a therapist about it.
Q: How do you explain to women that you do not have time to get into a serious relationship, and that you are happy to just date casually? I am in my final year in school, working in my field, and trying to start my own business all at the same time. I do want to get into a serious relationship down the line, but for right now, I am just not in the right place in my life to turn a girl I am dating into a serious girlfriend. Girls have accused me of being a player. I am not. I just want to focus on building a future, and right now casual dates and sex are all I have the time and energy for.
A: Be completely honest with the girl about where you stand, and how your time is very limited. IF they do not understand and they want more then what you offer might not be enough for them, and in that case, you have to understand they aren’t going to stick around. Let her know what you like about the girl and why you would want to date her, so she knows that you are not just making excuses to date her. This is a good discussion for you to have with her.