Everyone knows that sex feels good. If it didn’t, we wouldn’t be here, right? Desire is simply innate. Recreation and procreation always alternate as reasons for having sex.
There are, however, two other very good reasons for making love. When sex is raised to the conscious/spiritual level, we access a fulfilling sexuality that has a different flavor. We start to experience the potential of sex, beyond common awareness.
Sex can also be revitalizing and transformative.
When you make love using some basic guidelines, the gates to spiritual sex open. A powerful practice opens up to you. You gain access to incredible amounts of stored life force. You get that extra kick you were always lacking. Your sex life becomes a kind of prayer, giving you the answers you need as you keep exploring your life path.
The most exciting thing about spiritual sex is that there’s no wrong way to do it, as long as your intention is clear. Follow these 8 simple practices, and watch your sex life go from recreational to inspirational!
8 ways to raise your Sex vibration from Recreational to Transformational
1- Create the space
The environment in which you make love in matters. Put some thought and effort in creating a clean, sensual space. Low lighting, candles, a choice of scent and a great play list. Music can really support the quality, rhythm and energy of your sacred sex ceremony.
2- Presence
The most important element in sacred sex is presence. This means to fully show up. Show reverence for your partner and the space you’re entering by being attentive, supportive and compassionate.
3- Really see your partner
Whether it’s before, during or after sex, really make an effort to engage each other’s eyes. Give time and presence to eye gazing; remember, the eyes are the windows to the soul. Be curious and playful. Show both your softness as well as your fiery passion.
4- Desires and Boundaries
Before beginning a sacred sex ceremony, talk about your desires and boundaries together. Take some time to self-reflect. Understand what’s your intent for this love making session, and what your boundaries are. Communicate them to your partner consciously. Listen attentively to theirs. This creates a beautiful agreement. It allows you to see the whole playing field and its limits. The perfect way to create safety and trust – which leads to more openness!
5- Take it slow
Discover each other’s bodies. Make it a sensual mission for the tips of your fingers to slowly discover sensitive spots on your lover’s body. When you find them, explore them, and love them. There is no reason to be moving fast in a sacred sex ceremony, time doesn’t exist.
6- Activate the entire body
Think of your sexual self beyond the genitals and discover your body as a whole erotic entity. To really feel sex throughout your whole body, you need to activate and stimulate all its erogenous zones. Take some time to really awaken the muscles in your body, by giving a soothing yet penetrating full body massage to open the body’s channels and allow energy to flow throughout the body.
7- Use breath and sound to charge your sexual energy
The key to having more spiritual sex is to really move the sexual energy throughout your entire body, beyond the genitals. The best way to do this is using breath and sound.
Quick shallow breaths are great to charge sexual energy in your genitals. Full bellied breaths and exhales are paramount for circulating energy throughout the body.
The same goes for sound. Be natural, be loud, and be expressive. Sacred sex isn’t a quiet act. You no longer have to be ashamed about waking the neighbors! Just tell them you were praying!
8- Ride the waves of bliss
In Sacred Sex, there is no end goal, it’s more of a long surfing of ecstatic waves. The goal is to bring up the energy, and just before you hit the point of no return, you slow down and let that energy subside a little, relishing in its deliciousness. When you feel its time to build up again, increase the pace and continue to flow up and down. This exercise will help men maintain sexual endurance and maybe even sublimate his ejaculation for hours of sacred sex magic!