Many parts of the body besides the genitals, are potential sources of sexual pleasure in humans. In fact, the largest sensory organ for both men and women is the skin. When we think erogenous zones we tend to be more genitally oriented. We associate sex with intercourse, and it’s easy to overlook the importance of touch.
An erogenous zone is an area that when touched is quite pleasurable. Keep in mind though that we are all different, which means that what may be pleasurable for one person may annoy another. There are some “given” areas of the body, though, that are full of nerve endings, which makes the skin very sensitive to touch. The number one spot packed with nerve endings is the clitoris, a vital part of a woman’s sexual pleasure. Other areas that contain a lot of nerve endings are the rest of a woman’s vulva, and the area surrounding the anus (called the perineum). The nipples, the mouth, and lips are also highly sensitive for both men and women as they are packed with nerve endings as well.
Other erogenous zones for women include what we commonly refer to as the G-Spot, which is a spongy area located inside on the outer wall (toward the front) about 1-2 inches deep in the vagina. To stimulate this area, have your partner insert a finger, one-third of the way up, and do a come here motion. You may get the urge to urinate. If you follow this urge, that will probably lead to an orgasm.
Another female zone is the Anterior Fornix. This is a smooth area inside the vagina, also on the front wall, but past the G-spot area and closer to the cervix.
The U-spot (urethra) which lies in the front wall of the vagina, not very far inside, can also be stimulated to increase arousal. Some women enjoy stimulation up and down the area just below the clitoris and around the opening of the urinary tract rather than just focusing directly on the clitoris.
Men too have plenty of erogenous zones. The H-spot, or head of the penis, is the most sensitive part of the male anatomy. Just like the clitoris, it can be ultra-sensitive and so touch may not always be appreciated, so check with your partner first.
The frenulum, or the skin on the underside of the penis right below the head where it meets the shaft is a very sensitive spot. An often overlooked area on the male is the Scrotal Raphe, which is the “seam” running along the center of the scrotum. Make sure to use a light touch in this area.
The Perineum is the area from the base of the scrotum to the anus. Try putting pressure there. You may find that it can bring on orgasm faster.
The P-spot (Prostate) is located about 2.5-4 cm inside the anus. Not everyone is comfortable inserting a finger or toy there, so you can access it by pushing hard on the perineum instead. And for maximum pleasure, you can put in a finger and apply pressure at the same time.
Have fun exploring each other’s bodies and discovering what works for each of you. Remember, everyone has different sensitivities and preferences, so talking about what feels good is the way to go. Also, I wouldn’t focus too much on getting the “right spot”. Lovemaking should be fun and not a gynecological or prostate exam!