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“How do I love thee, let me count the ways,” begins a famous sonnet by 19th century poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning.
Writing a love note to tell the person you love all the ways you love them can make them feel cherished, connected, desired and appreciated.
Glen wasn’t a romantic man. He wasn’t good at saying to Melissa how he felt about her—so he told her with love notes. Every morning, he would get up early and make her a pot of tea and left the tea to steep when he went to work. In front of the teapot, he would leave a love note expressing his feelings, such as, “Being with you makes my life special.” It lifted her spirits. It helped make their relationship last a lifetime.
Writing love notes to the person you love can uplift your relationship. It’s an opportunity to say things you don’t say in person.
Need some ideas on what to write?
When you write a love note, be authentic. Write what you feel about the person. Be your real self and write from your heart. Think about what your partner would love to hear.
Let me count some of the ways you can tell your partner how you love them. Here are some starting points for you to build on in your love notes.
- I want you to know how special you are to me.
- I appreciate your goodness.
- You mean a lot to me.
- You make a difference in my life.
- I want you to know you how important you are to me.
- Let me tell you what I love about you.
- Let me tell you how much I love you.
- I’m thinking of you.
- You are my lover, my partner and my best friend.
- I am the luckiest person in the world to be with you.
- I love every moment we are together.
- I remember the first time we were together.
- I am here to support you during this challenging time.
- I can’t wait to see you.
- I am so crazy about you.
- I have fallen for you.
- You make me so happy
- I feel so lucky that we have found each other.
- I enjoyed our date last night and look forward to going out again.
Post it where it can be seen
If you leave in the morning before your partner gets up, put a note on the bathroom mirror or the fridge in the kitchen or other places where they will be sure to see it.
Ron would leave a note on the bathroom mirror expressing his feelings of love and attraction to Jane. “I want you to know how special you are to me. You are my partner, my best friend and my lover.” When Jane saw the note, she felt that in spite of all the stresses during the day, Ron desired and cherished her.
Texting sends your love message over distances
When you and the person you love are a distance apart, send a love note by text. It is just as heartwarming.
John and Robin both travelled a lot for their jobs. They were often in different cities. In the morning, Robin would text John wishing him a successful day and telling him, “You mean so much to me. I miss you every day that we are apart.”
He’d respond telling her, “I love every minute we are together. I am so much looking forward to being with you on the weekend.”
In the afternoon, John would text Robin asking her how her day was going and telling her, “I am so lucky to have you in my life.”
Being able to text love notes while they were apart increased their anticipation of being together on the weekend. He texted, “I can’t wait.” She replied, “Me too.”
Elizabeth Barrett Browning wrote “How Do I Love Thee?” for her husband Robert Browning. One of the ways she wrote that she loved him was:
“I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life;”
Imagine how loved Robert Browning felt when he read that.
Imagine how loved the person you love will feel when they receive a love note from you.
Writing love notes is a simple way to make your partner feel loved and desired and elevate your relationship.
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