What Kind Of Open Relationship Is Best?
Q: So, my girlfriend and I have talked about it for a long time, and we both agree that we want to be together in the long-term, but that monogamy *forever* isn’t really realistic. As a result, we’ve decided that we’ll eventually open up our relationship. I was just wondering if there’s any evidence as to what exactly is the best way to have one. I’ve read a lot about how open communication is the only way… but I’m not sure that I want to hear about my girlfriend boning other dudes, or share with her what goes on with me. Can a “Don’t ask, don’t tell” approach work as long as we both have safe sex? Should it only be one-night stands or are steady sexual partners okay? I just want to make sure we go about it in a way that doesn’t mess up our relationship.
A: These are all great questions to be asking yourselves as there are many ways to have a consensually non-monogamous relationship (CNM). Firstly, the two of you have to be really solid, and able to communicate openly. If you are prone to jealousy, this will be difficult on your relationship. This works better when there is a high level of “compersion” (defined as: vicarious joy associated with seeing one’s partner have a joyful romantic or sexual relations with another). There is no one best way to have a CNM relationship. This will depend on what is comfortable for each of you. Some couples choose to have the “don’t ask, don’t tell approach” but may have lots of rules around this. For example, it’s ok when you are out of town, or only if it’s purely sexual. For others, they enjoy “swinging” or going to parties where sex happens with strangers. There are also others who practice polyamory where they are good with having other intimate connections (not just sexual). This is not an exhaustive list of possibilities. My suggestion is to do the research together, or speak to a coach or therapist that specializes in this area.
How To Pay For Sex
Q: For about a million different reasons, dating really isn’t on the table for me right now—but my sex drive is still high. My casual sexual relationships have been more work than fun, and I don’t really have time to spend on fostering something like that again. For the moment, I think my only option is to hire a sex worker. It’s what I want, and it turns me on, but as a lapsed Catholic, I feel so, so guilty about it. I’ve never had a problem with sex feeling transactional, but I’m also worried it’ll be dark and weird and it’ll feel like I’m degrading someone. I’m also worried about some random police bust or something like that. But at the same time, I still REALLY need to have regular sex at this point in my life. Any tips on how to engage with sex workers?
A: I can’t be your moral voice here. You may want to speak to a professional to deal with your guilt and shame surrounding sex. I also don’t know where you live, so not sure about the laws surrounding sex work in your area. You need to be informed about this so as to not take any risks you are not comfortable with. I’m not sure what “tips to engage” means. If you are going to hire someone, it might be best to have a conversation with them first. Let them know your needs, and whatever else you need to prepare for such an encounter.