Finding A Unicorn
Q: One night a little while ago, my wife and one of her friends got a little saucy when they were drunk at our place and we almost had a threesome. I never expected it, and it was a huge turn-on. Afterward, she agreed that we could have a threesome—and we both agreed that sleeping with one of her close friends would be a bad idea. So now, we just need to find the right woman. I know it’s a probably bad idea to involve women in our social circle, but I’m much more comfortable around people I know than I am with strangers. I guess our other choice it to use an app, but I have zero experience with that type of “dating”—how can we be sure that whoever agrees to it isn’t a weird stalker or something? Do you know the best way to find our so-called “unicorn”?
A: I agree with your wife that fulfilling this fantasy with someone in your inner circle is not the best idea as it could get complicated. Remember that when you take this fantasy to real life, you are dealing with other people’s emotions, as well as your own. In a fantasy, none of this exists as you control the fantasy. To find a third partner, you may want to explore websites that cater to the swinging lifestyle. Some cities also have clubs that cater to “Libertarians” or swingers.
Nipple Stimulation
Q: I am a man, but I love it when someone kisses my nipples. It makes me go wild. Does this mean that I somehow have feminine tendencies?
A: Oh my, no! Nipples on men can also be an important erogenous zone leading to sexual arousal. This has absolutely nothing to do with masculinity or femininity.
Exhibitionism
Q: Is there a safe and legal way to practice exhibitionism?
A: There is exhibitionism as a criminal offense, and exhibitionism as a kink. It is not legal to expose oneself to unsuspecting, non-consensual people. However, if you like having people watch you, you can do it in numerous ways—you can go to a sex/swinger’s club or you can engage in some legal webcam activities, where people who want to can watch you.