How Much Fighting Is Normal?
Q: I had one other “big” relationship in my life, and we never fought. It’s not that we didn’t have problems; it’s just that we didn’t get into these big, blowout fights. Well…in my current relationship, things are different. Some of them have been alcohol-fueled, but with less going out to bars on the horizon, now they just happen when we’re chilling at home. It’s not all the time, it’s really only once a month or so, but she gets combative and defensive… and I do too! We make up and move on, but I’m still not used to fighting being a regular part of my life. Is it normal? Does it mean we’re immature? Is there any way to stop it?
A: It’s really not about the fighting but more about how you resolve conflict that counts. I worry more about couples who never fight because, to me, it indicates that there is avoidance, or that one person “sucks it up”. Disagreements are normal, but regular blowouts with no resolution cause strain in a relationship, especially over time. Maybe you both have very different communication styles, and you are not understanding each other. This leads to frustration and defensiveness. You may find it quite helpful to seek the counsel of a therapist who can help you with communication.
Yellowish Semen
Q: I just found out that you have partnered with Pornhub, which is how I came to know about you. I am sending you this email because I have a bit of an issue. When I hit puberty, from that time, I always had yellowish-tinged semen. Currently residing in Pakistan, the doctors can’t help me with it or tell me why I have this, and it makes me nervous. I hope you can help me with it. I just need an answer as to why it happens. Is it bad? If so, then how can it be eliminated?
A: Semen is usually milky clear, white, or grayish in color. However, since semen passes through the urethra (the same place that urine comes out of), a little urine could be mixing with the semen causing it to have a yellowish tinge. If the doctors have checked you out and they find no abnormalities, then I wouldn’t worry too much about it.