Masturbation Addiction
Q: My boyfriend is addicted to masturbation. He neglects me sexually, intimately and every way. Doesn’t touch me, no foreplay, no oral sex—nothing. I don’t know what to do. I’m ready to walk away.
A: I can certainly understand why you are completely fed up. Being neglected in a relationship is terrible for our feelings of self-worth. Have you considered asking him to go for treatment? What about seeing a couple’s therapist? You can make that a condition for staying, at least for now. If he has no interest in getting help and if he has no regard for how this is all making you feel, then you always have the option to walk away. If this is very difficult for you, I would recommend you seek therapy for yourself to help you make a decision that is right for you.
Masturbation Routines
Q: I have a question. I am 59-year-old male—healthy, I have no problems that require medication—married for 30 years. My wife stopped having sex with me a long time ago, because of her psychological problems. Nowadays in the evening, before dinner, I have one or two shots of whisky, nearly five times a week. After drinking, I get horny and mostly get a good hard-on after watching porn, then I masturbate. I don’t have any girlfriend on the side, nor do I go to sex workers. Is something wrong with me? I enjoy it a lot.
A: I’m sorry for you that your sex life with your wife has stopped completely. It’s unfortunate if your partner is not seeking therapy to help her with her psychological problems and also her sexuality. Clearly you still have sexual needs, and the best way to satisfy them without going outside your marriage (which may destroy your marriage if you do) is through masturbation. Using porn to get aroused is very common and generally not problematic. Some men masturbate on a daily basis, and no harm will come to you if you do.
Masturbation and Growth
Q: You can probably get to know what I am try to say at the subject and yes, I am writing to seek help and advice on whether or not masturbation affects growth. I am an 18, going on 19-year-old virgin boy. I masturbate once a day (at most twice) and I think it’s a bit too much. My concern is that, is masturbating going to affect growth? Especially on height. I am 18 and I’m only 5’3” tall , I am afraid I will stay this height for the rest of my life. Should I stop masturbating in order to grow taller?
A: Masturbation once or twice a day for an 18-year-old male is perfectly normal. Men this age are experiencing their peak in testosterone levels. So it is not too much. As for it affecting your growth, it will not. The two are unrelated.
Female Masturbation
Q: I’ve been masturbating every day since I’ve got home and I can’t seem to stop. I can’t do much since I have school, a dog, a brother, and since my parents aren’t home much, I have to make dinner. What can I replace with masturbation? Is there an unhealthy amount of masturbation a day? How much can I masturbate?
A: It sounds like you have a pretty stressful life. Oftentimes people will masturbate to release stress. The hormones released with orgasm make us feel good. Masturbation on a daily basis is perfectly normal. You need to worry if you are doing it compulsively or if it interferes with your life. Otherwise, masturbating daily to help you relax is perfectly fine.