“I cooked for you in lingerie last night, now I’m naked at your knees. Why don’t you want me?” “I love spending time with you but.. I don’t want to fuck you, I don’t want that with anyone.” Sexual attraction seems like … [Read more...] about Dating an Ace: A Guide for Sexual People
Relationships
Passion in Long-Term Relationships
In my practice as a relationship therapist, one of the most common complaints I hear is about the lack of sex in the couple. The story usually goes as follows: At the beginning we were all over each other, having sex a lot. Then … [Read more...] about Passion in Long-Term Relationships
Is Being Single for Too Long a Red Flag for Dating?
In my coaching practice, there is something I hear more often than not from singles that have been single or a long time. What these particular singles mention, is that when they admit to their dates that they’ve been single a … [Read more...] about Is Being Single for Too Long a Red Flag for Dating?
Finding the right porn for you and your lover
You may know what you like, and your partner may know what they like, but how do you take the plunge and integrate pornography into your partnered sex life? If you’re looking to spice things up, adding porn watching into your … [Read more...] about Finding the right porn for you and your lover
When Someone You Love is Kinky
So you're in a hot and heavy relationship with someone and you're slowly realizing there's something you can't really relate to with your partner. It appears your partner is into things that you might find just a little too … [Read more...] about When Someone You Love is Kinky
Is porn watching a form of cheating?
As a psychologist who sees many couples in therapy grappling with issues related to sexuality and infidelity, this is one of those questions that does not have a simple answer. Imagine the following scenario: one late night, after … [Read more...] about Is porn watching a form of cheating?
How To Get Her Engine Revving
At the beginning of most relationships, the sex is usually hot, heavy and frequent. This honeymoon phase is very titillating and very exciting, but sadly, not permanent. Eventually, real life sets in, complete with time restraints … [Read more...] about How To Get Her Engine Revving
The Sexless Relationship
Can a relationship survive without sex?? In the short term I would say yes, it’s possible. Long term relationships can go through many stages of activity (dry spells are not uncommon). However, if a couple is not having sex at … [Read more...] about The Sexless Relationship
Why Women Cheat
While men have always gotten the bad rap about infidelity, recent studies have shown that women are catching up fast. Interestingly, women are more likely to lie, and less likely to get caught. It seems that women are actually … [Read more...] about Why Women Cheat
Why Men Cheat
Whenever I see couples where the man has cheated on his partner, the partner always seeks to understand WHY. Part of the healing process, if a couple is to try and remain together, is to gain this understanding so that we minimize … [Read more...] about Why Men Cheat
Mindful intimacy? There is, in fact, an app for that
Raise your hand if you’ve ever wanted to approach two or more people for a group sex scenario, but you were just plain too awkward to get it done. Same. Luckily, as in all things, there is now an app for that. Fantasy is in … [Read more...] about Mindful intimacy? There is, in fact, an app for that
Are Open Relationships Right for You? 8 Questions to Help You Decide
As polyamory and other open relationships options become more visible, more and more people are wondering if that could be the right choice for them. And for a good reason: Consensual nonmonogamy (or CNM for short) is really not … [Read more...] about Are Open Relationships Right for You? 8 Questions to Help You Decide