As a sexologist and BDSM* expert, I’m asked many interesting questions, such as: How could anyone enjoy pain? Isn’t pain automatically bad because it hurts? How could pain possibly be good? These are all legitimate questions, … [Read more...] about Turning bad pain into good pain
Real Talk
How to Choose a Sex Toy
It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the plethora of gadgets designed to help get you off. Regular masturbation is linked to improved physical, mental and emotional health. A good way to keep both your masturbation routine and your … [Read more...] about How to Choose a Sex Toy
8 ways to make your Sex more Spiritual
Everyone knows that sex feels good. If it didn’t, we wouldn’t be here, right? Desire is simply innate. Recreation and procreation always alternate as reasons for having sex. There are, however, two other very good reasons for … [Read more...] about 8 ways to make your Sex more Spiritual
From Top to Bottom: Sexual Health for Gay Men 101
Let’s face it: sex, in general, can be an altogether terrifying endeavor for those who are, shall we say, lacking in experience. Moreover, a lack of attention to the special considerations involved in gay intercourse may leave … [Read more...] about From Top to Bottom: Sexual Health for Gay Men 101
BDSM Bites
The media loves to show the “spectacular” side of fetishes and the most extreme parts of alternative sexuality. In reality, the vast majority of people who practice BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Masochism) don’t … [Read more...] about BDSM Bites
Why Women Cheat
While men have always gotten the bad rap about infidelity, recent studies have shown that women are catching up fast. Interestingly, women are more likely to lie, and less likely to get caught. It seems that women are actually … [Read more...] about Why Women Cheat
Male childhood sexual abuse and disclosure
Sexual trauma is, a phrase that generally conjures up a stereotypical image of a male perpetrator and female victim. In truth, however, an individual can experience sexual trauma regardless of their sex or gender. In fact, various … [Read more...] about Male childhood sexual abuse and disclosure
Why Men Cheat
Whenever I see couples where the man has cheated on his partner, the partner always seeks to understand WHY. Part of the healing process, if a couple is to try and remain together, is to gain this understanding so that we minimize … [Read more...] about Why Men Cheat
How much is too much masturbation?
This seems to be one of the most common questions I have been getting on the site, especially from our young adult viewers. Here is a sampling of such questions: Q: Is it healthy to ejaculate more than 3 times a day? Q: I … [Read more...] about How much is too much masturbation?
An orgasm is an orgasm, is an orgasm: A look at the female orgasm
I get so many questions asking me “How come I can’t come with penetration?”, “How do I get my girlfriend to have an orgasm?” “My wife has orgasms with oral but I want her to have one with intercourse—what can I do? These … [Read more...] about An orgasm is an orgasm, is an orgasm: A look at the female orgasm
Cross-dresser, Transvestite, Transgender or Transsexual – what’s the difference?
You catch your husband wearing your stockings, or he expresses that he wants to go out to dinner in a dress and makeup – what’s that about? Is he gay? What if your boyfriend likes to secretly wear ladies underwear? Is he a … [Read more...] about Cross-dresser, Transvestite, Transgender or Transsexual – what’s the difference?
Performance Anxiety
What’s the first thing that you think of when you hear the word “performance”? I’ll bet that it’s probably not sex. But for many people out there, sex is like a performance, they suffer from what’s called “performance … [Read more...] about Performance Anxiety