Getting My Partner To Engage In Power Play Q: I’m discovering that I love pain and am getting to orgasm on pain. But I’m in an eight-year vanilla marriage. He’s not interested in giving/receiving pain, so how do I cope with … [Read more...] about Q&A With Dr. Laurie: To BDSM Or Not To BDSM
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Finding A Partner Who Shares Your Passion For BDSM
Many people have problems with openly expressing our sexuality. We think people will judge us if they really knew who we are, and they do. It’s already hard finding someone who’s considered “normal”, let alone looking for someone … [Read more...] about Finding A Partner Who Shares Your Passion For BDSM
The Most Important Factors To Consider If You Are New To BDSM
Even if you and your partner are both equally interested in trying BDSM, it’s important to talk about some of the behaviors that you might be interested in exploring, the specific behaviors that you would want to pursue in certain … [Read more...] about The Most Important Factors To Consider If You Are New To BDSM
Disability and Sexuality Part 6: Tales of a BDSM Dwarf
To some people, BDSM stands for Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism. Starting today, I would love for it to also stand for Bodacious Disabled Sex Machines. But be prepared: those four letters in that specific order can make … [Read more...] about Disability and Sexuality Part 6: Tales of a BDSM Dwarf
BDSM: Where Does One Start?
Many people are interested in BDSM. We often get emails from people who are interested in becoming skilled in this area but have no idea where to start. BDSM is a way to satisfy a need. We have written about this a lot. The way … [Read more...] about BDSM: Where Does One Start?
BDSM Safety
The internet is full of wonderful amazing pictures and videos of kink, fetish, and BDSM. Each time we research the net on any of these topics, we are amazed by the sheer quantity of material we find. One would think that with … [Read more...] about BDSM Safety
BDSM Bites
The media loves to show the “spectacular” side of fetishes and the most extreme parts of alternative sexuality. In reality, the vast majority of people who practice BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Masochism) don’t … [Read more...] about BDSM Bites
Safe Slutting: How To Initiate A Conversation About Sexual Health And Pleasure With A New Partner
For many people the idea of talking about sexual health and pleasure with a new partner might make them feel awkward and want to shy away from the conversation. When is the best time to even have the conversation. How do you even … [Read more...] about Safe Slutting: How To Initiate A Conversation About Sexual Health And Pleasure With A New Partner
Why Can’t I Cum?
Why can’t I cum? And no, I’m not talking about the BDSM practice of orgasm denial. Have you never had an orgasm before? Can only cum in one specific way or with a specific person? Do you feel like you “lost” your orgasm after … [Read more...] about Why Can’t I Cum?
How Do I Bring Up STI Testing With A Partner?
With the epic cliffhanger of Lee and Lynn from my last article on how to respond when someone discloses a positive status to you, we left off with an exchange that ended positively. What was missing is a key element to a sexual … [Read more...] about How Do I Bring Up STI Testing With A Partner?
The Need For Better Adult Sex Education: The Internet As A Vessel
By Jessie Ford and Tara Michaela Jones For this post, I’ve teamed up with the amazing sex educator Tara Michaela Jones to talk about why we need better sex education for adults and how the internet might be an essential vessel … [Read more...] about The Need For Better Adult Sex Education: The Internet As A Vessel
A Guide To Women’s Sexual Pain During Intercourse
The best research estimates that sexual pain afflicts 20% of American women—which breaks down to 15% before menopause and 33% after. … [Read more...] about A Guide To Women’s Sexual Pain During Intercourse